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	<description>The guerrilla manual for survival on the dance floor - &#34;Every Man&#039;s Survival Guide to Ballroom Dancing: Ace Your Wedding Dance and Keep Cool on a Cruise, at a Formal, and in Dance Classes.&#34; Learn ballroom dance, formal dance, slow dance, survival dance, how to hear the beat in music, ballroom music phrasing like 32-beat music. Prepare for dance lessons. Intro to foxtrot, swing, salsa, rumba, tango, waltz. Free dance instruction video clips.</description>
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		<title>By: I read your book and loved it</title>
		<link>http://ihatetodance.com/my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-449</link>
		<dc:creator>I read your book and loved it</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 26 Oct 2011 15:48:55 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I thoroughly loved your book and want to talk about it. Get in touch with me
by telephoning me at &quot;954 984 ****&quot;. Send me your telephone number. You write very well and I enjoyed everything you had to say.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I thoroughly loved your book and want to talk about it. Get in touch with me<br />
by telephoning me at &#8220;954 984 ****&#8221;. Send me your telephone number. You write very well and I enjoyed everything you had to say.</p>
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		<title>By: James Joseph</title>
		<link>http://ihatetodance.com/my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-398</link>
		<dc:creator>James Joseph</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Sep 2011 23:28:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Those are simply &quot;extra beats.&quot; Music varies in difficulty with regards to dancing (and some music is just not dance music). Easy music has a simple structure, which would mean simple phrasing and no extra beats. Harder music will have things like extra beats, mixed phrasing (eg, both 32-beat and 48-beat phrases), faster tempo, etc. In the case of 3 extra beats in a waltz, I&#039;d simply call that an &quot;extra measure.&quot; When you teach you should use easy music. If you DJ music at a social dance for beginners, again, pick easy music.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Those are simply &#8220;extra beats.&#8221; Music varies in difficulty with regards to dancing (and some music is just not dance music). Easy music has a simple structure, which would mean simple phrasing and no extra beats. Harder music will have things like extra beats, mixed phrasing (eg, both 32-beat and 48-beat phrases), faster tempo, etc. In the case of 3 extra beats in a waltz, I&#8217;d simply call that an &#8220;extra measure.&#8221; When you teach you should use easy music. If you DJ music at a social dance for beginners, again, pick easy music.</p>
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		<title>By: theekshana</title>
		<link>http://ihatetodance.com/my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-397</link>
		<dc:creator>theekshana</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Sep 2011 03:32:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I counted mini phrase of a song. and i counted major phrase of a song. i could be able to identify those. i counted &#039;could i have this dance&#039; song and when i count i met 3 extra beats between 2 major phrases. what is that? is it mini phrase or something els?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I counted mini phrase of a song. and i counted major phrase of a song. i could be able to identify those. i counted &#8216;could i have this dance&#8217; song and when i count i met 3 extra beats between 2 major phrases. what is that? is it mini phrase or something els?</p>
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		<title>By: James Joseph</title>
		<link>http://ihatetodance.com/my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-394</link>
		<dc:creator>James Joseph</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Sep 2011 20:45:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Your attempt to understand waltz by using 2-beat dance rhythms is incorrect. 2-beat dance rhythms are only for music that&#039;s structured in sets of 8. Virtually all dance music is structured in sets of 8. Waltz, the only exception, is structured in sets of 6 and it uses 3-beat dance rhythms (a set of 6 has two 3-beat dance rhythms). If you have my book, which I think you do, I talk about this on page 74. (In  music theory terms, waltz is 3/4 time, all other dance music is mostly in 4/4 time.)

You ask: &quot;Why can&#039;t waltz be considered a slow dance?&quot; My question to you: Is there some reason why you need to officially call a particular waltz a slow dance? The problem is that the definition of a slow dance is not set in stone. Slow dancing is not a formally recognized dance so it&#039;s not easily defined, nor is there a widely accepted curriculum. It&#039;s kind of like the old saying from a U.S. Supreme Court Justice when he couldn&#039;t define pornography and said, &quot;I know it when I see it.&quot; People who know nothing about dance--people who couldn&#039;t tell the difference between a rumba and a merrangue--probably know a slow dance when they see.

As I suggested in my earlier comment, if a couple were dancing to slow waltz music, particularly something like a romantic ballad, and the couple had a close embrace (no daylight between their bodies), and if they stylized it in a romantic way, I&#039;m guessing most people would call it--correctly or incorrectly--a slow dance. If this were at, say, a wedding, the fact that it&#039;s a waltz may not be relevant as I&#039;m guessing most guests could not identify waltz music so they would not even know the couple was dancing a waltz.

It sounds like you have a specific song you&#039;re working on. What&#039;s the name of the song? Even better, is there a version of it on youtube so everyone can listen to the same arrangement for free?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Your attempt to understand waltz by using 2-beat dance rhythms is incorrect. 2-beat dance rhythms are only for music that&#8217;s structured in sets of 8. Virtually all dance music is structured in sets of 8. Waltz, the only exception, is structured in sets of 6 and it uses 3-beat dance rhythms (a set of 6 has two 3-beat dance rhythms). If you have my book, which I think you do, I talk about this on page 74. (In  music theory terms, waltz is 3/4 time, all other dance music is mostly in 4/4 time.)</p>
<p>You ask: &#8220;Why can&#8217;t waltz be considered a slow dance?&#8221; My question to you: Is there some reason why you need to officially call a particular waltz a slow dance? The problem is that the definition of a slow dance is not set in stone. Slow dancing is not a formally recognized dance so it&#8217;s not easily defined, nor is there a widely accepted curriculum. It&#8217;s kind of like the old saying from a U.S. Supreme Court Justice when he couldn&#8217;t define pornography and said, &#8220;I know it when I see it.&#8221; People who know nothing about dance&#8211;people who couldn&#8217;t tell the difference between a rumba and a merrangue&#8211;probably know a slow dance when they see.</p>
<p>As I suggested in my earlier comment, if a couple were dancing to slow waltz music, particularly something like a romantic ballad, and the couple had a close embrace (no daylight between their bodies), and if they stylized it in a romantic way, I&#8217;m guessing most people would call it&#8211;correctly or incorrectly&#8211;a slow dance. If this were at, say, a wedding, the fact that it&#8217;s a waltz may not be relevant as I&#8217;m guessing most guests could not identify waltz music so they would not even know the couple was dancing a waltz.</p>
<p>It sounds like you have a specific song you&#8217;re working on. What&#8217;s the name of the song? Even better, is there a version of it on youtube so everyone can listen to the same arrangement for free?</p>
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		<title>By: theekshana</title>
		<link>http://ihatetodance.com/my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-390</link>
		<dc:creator>theekshana</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 04 Sep 2011 02:36:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Jim,

I have asked some questions from you and you had answered well. I have another small thing to clarify. According to your definition double rhythm is two weight changes in two beats. That means in the first two beat you change the weight twice. When it comes to waltz, it has 3 beats for a bar. In the waltz we weight change three times in a bar. That means in the first two beats we change our weight twice. After that we have one beat remaining in the first bar. If we take first beat of the second bar then we have again two beats. Then we change our weight two times on two beats. 
Is it correct ? 
If it is correct why waltz can&#039;t consider as a slow dance. (waltz tempo is 84 bpm.)
This is only my question. Want to be clear. Please help me.
Thank you.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Jim,</p>
<p>I have asked some questions from you and you had answered well. I have another small thing to clarify. According to your definition double rhythm is two weight changes in two beats. That means in the first two beat you change the weight twice. When it comes to waltz, it has 3 beats for a bar. In the waltz we weight change three times in a bar. That means in the first two beats we change our weight twice. After that we have one beat remaining in the first bar. If we take first beat of the second bar then we have again two beats. Then we change our weight two times on two beats.<br />
Is it correct ?<br />
If it is correct why waltz can&#8217;t consider as a slow dance. (waltz tempo is 84 bpm.)<br />
This is only my question. Want to be clear. Please help me.<br />
Thank you.</p>
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		<title>By: James Joseph</title>
		<link>http://ihatetodance.com/my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-385</link>
		<dc:creator>James Joseph</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Aug 2011 16:18:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you for the nice comment. Let me try to answer your questions:

1) What is the meaning of slow dance?
I think you&#039;re asking for a definition. It&#039;s not a well-defined dance but, at the simplest level, it&#039;s using single rhythm (eg, STEP HOLD) and double rhythm (eg, STEP STEP) to music with a slow tempo. Click on this link to see the &lt;a href=&quot;http://ihatetodance.com/slow-dancing&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;free chapter on slow dancing&lt;/a&gt; in my website.

2) Is waltz a slow dance?
Based on the definition above I would say no, but if a couple were dancing to slow waltz music with a close embrace, it might look like a slow dance.

3) Is there a basic step for slow dance?
Teachers will vary on that. My suggestion is to use the 8-count basic side step, which is &lt;em&gt;double--single--double--single&lt;/em&gt;. One verbal call you could use is: STEP STEP--STEP HOLD--STEP STEP--STEP HOLD. Click on this &lt;a href=&quot;http://ihatetodance.com/freebie-video&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Freebie Video link&lt;/a&gt; to see me demonstrate it in a video clip. Scroll down to the video titled, “Page 103 – The Side Step.&quot;

4) What is the beat range for slow dance?
This is more complex than it seems. Tempo, or relative tempo like the word &quot;slow,&quot; is subjective. What is slow tempo for me may feel medium tempo to you. And it&#039;s on a song-by-song basis, which means a song that makes me want to slow dance may make some one else want to swing dance or foxtrot. At the moment, I guess I don&#039;t have a good answer but, for me, something around 100 beats per minute or below is where I&#039;m probably thinking about doing a slow dance. (Actually, in my case, I&#039;m thinking about doing a blues dance, which I sometimes do to music faster than 100 bpm--again, it&#039;s complex.)

Have you looked at blues dancing? I see it as the contemporary manifestation of slow dancing. It&#039;s sort of a cross between slow dancing, foxtrot and maybe some swing, and it&#039;s highly improvisational. Search goolge and youtube for &quot;blues dancing.&quot; It&#039;s gaining popularity. Click on this link for a recent piece by &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.npr.org/2011/08/20/139790041/the-healing-power-of-blues-dancing&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;National Public Radio on blues dancing&lt;/a&gt;.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you for the nice comment. Let me try to answer your questions:</p>
<p>1) What is the meaning of slow dance?<br />
I think you&#8217;re asking for a definition. It&#8217;s not a well-defined dance but, at the simplest level, it&#8217;s using single rhythm (eg, STEP HOLD) and double rhythm (eg, STEP STEP) to music with a slow tempo. Click on this link to see the <a href="http://ihatetodance.com/slow-dancing" rel="nofollow">free chapter on slow dancing</a> in my website.</p>
<p>2) Is waltz a slow dance?<br />
Based on the definition above I would say no, but if a couple were dancing to slow waltz music with a close embrace, it might look like a slow dance.</p>
<p>3) Is there a basic step for slow dance?<br />
Teachers will vary on that. My suggestion is to use the 8-count basic side step, which is <em>double&#8211;single&#8211;double&#8211;single</em>. One verbal call you could use is: STEP STEP&#8211;STEP HOLD&#8211;STEP STEP&#8211;STEP HOLD. Click on this <a href="http://ihatetodance.com/freebie-video" rel="nofollow">Freebie Video link</a> to see me demonstrate it in a video clip. Scroll down to the video titled, “Page 103 – The Side Step.&#8221;</p>
<p>4) What is the beat range for slow dance?<br />
This is more complex than it seems. Tempo, or relative tempo like the word &#8220;slow,&#8221; is subjective. What is slow tempo for me may feel medium tempo to you. And it&#8217;s on a song-by-song basis, which means a song that makes me want to slow dance may make some one else want to swing dance or foxtrot. At the moment, I guess I don&#8217;t have a good answer but, for me, something around 100 beats per minute or below is where I&#8217;m probably thinking about doing a slow dance. (Actually, in my case, I&#8217;m thinking about doing a blues dance, which I sometimes do to music faster than 100 bpm&#8211;again, it&#8217;s complex.)</p>
<p>Have you looked at blues dancing? I see it as the contemporary manifestation of slow dancing. It&#8217;s sort of a cross between slow dancing, foxtrot and maybe some swing, and it&#8217;s highly improvisational. Search goolge and youtube for &#8220;blues dancing.&#8221; It&#8217;s gaining popularity. Click on this link for a recent piece by <a href="http://www.npr.org/2011/08/20/139790041/the-healing-power-of-blues-dancing" rel="nofollow">National Public Radio on blues dancing</a>.</p>
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		<title>By: Theekshana</title>
		<link>http://ihatetodance.com/my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-384</link>
		<dc:creator>Theekshana</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 24 Aug 2011 15:03:04 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>What a lovely book you have written. I learn lot of things from you. I could be able to sort out lot of doubts. I have few question. 
What is the meaning of Slow dance?  
Is Waltz a slow dance?
Is there a Basic step for slow dance?
What is the beat range for slow dance?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What a lovely book you have written. I learn lot of things from you. I could be able to sort out lot of doubts. I have few question.<br />
What is the meaning of Slow dance?<br />
Is Waltz a slow dance?<br />
Is there a Basic step for slow dance?<br />
What is the beat range for slow dance?</p>
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		<title>By: Donalda</title>
		<link>http://ihatetodance.com/my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-225</link>
		<dc:creator>Donalda</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Dec 2010 12:31:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Information sounds so great, can you buy a dvd or video of the music and dance information.

Thanks</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Information sounds so great, can you buy a dvd or video of the music and dance information.</p>
<p>Thanks</p>
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		<title>By: WYATT HURTS</title>
		<link>http://ihatetodance.com/my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-220</link>
		<dc:creator>WYATT HURTS</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 24 Nov 2010 19:56:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>IF YOU EVER SAW ME DANCE YOU WOULD KNOW WYATT HURTS !
I DO THE TWO LEFT FEET SHUFFLE ! I LOOK LIKE I,M TRYING TO PUT OUT A FIRE WHEN I BOOGIE AND I HAVE A HARD TIME COUNTING TO FOUR WHEN I DO THE TWO STEP . THE ONE AND ONLY TIME I DID DANCE GOOD WAS WHEN I WAS TO DRUNK TO DRIVE .
  HOWEVER IT WAS NICE TO MEET YOU AT THE FIRE MANS BALL , IF ONLY THERE&#039;D BEEN A FIRE MAYBE I WOULD OF OUT SHINED YOU ?
  WYATT HURTS</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>IF YOU EVER SAW ME DANCE YOU WOULD KNOW WYATT HURTS !<br />
I DO THE TWO LEFT FEET SHUFFLE ! I LOOK LIKE I,M TRYING TO PUT OUT A FIRE WHEN I BOOGIE AND I HAVE A HARD TIME COUNTING TO FOUR WHEN I DO THE TWO STEP . THE ONE AND ONLY TIME I DID DANCE GOOD WAS WHEN I WAS TO DRUNK TO DRIVE .<br />
  HOWEVER IT WAS NICE TO MEET YOU AT THE FIRE MANS BALL , IF ONLY THERE&#8217;D BEEN A FIRE MAYBE I WOULD OF OUT SHINED YOU ?<br />
  WYATT HURTS</p>
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		<title>By: Eric L</title>
		<link>http://ihatetodance.com/my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-93</link>
		<dc:creator>Eric L</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Dec 2009 18:01:42 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi Jim, 
what a great book! is it still in writing? I want more for sure, I&#039;ll be the first to buy it if it&#039;s ever published

Thanks,
Eric</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Jim,<br />
what a great book! is it still in writing? I want more for sure, I&#8217;ll be the first to buy it if it&#8217;s ever published</p>
<p>Thanks,<br />
Eric</p>
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